Cheating (X1 and X2)

This blog will be about cheating. Cheating is probably the worst thing to do to a person. It makes absolutely no sense. Why be with someone if you are going to cheat on them. In my opinion if you are not happy just leave. If you are cheating on someone you clearly do not actually love them, let alone even have true feelings for them. I don’t understand how people can be with one person but then “be” with another person on the side. I also do not get how someone can cheat on their boyfriend or girlfriend and look them straight in the eye and lie to them. They don’t even have to say anything to lie, just not telling them what you have been doing is lying itself. If you even contemplate cheating on someone just think about how you would feel if someone decided to cheat on you. Being cheated on is a terrible feeling. Especially if it has been going on for a really long time. The first thing you do is blame yourself. Most people who find out that they have been cheated on blame themselves for it. They think that they did something wrong and that they pushed them away in the first place. The second thing people end up doing is go after the person their boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on them with. Which honestly isn’t really going to solve anything. Yeah, you have a right to hate them with everything you have but the person you should really anger is your boyfriend or girlfriend. Because the third person involved, unless they are also in a relationship, didn’t do anything wrong in their eyes. And finally once a little time has gone by they begin to put the blame completely on their boyfriend or girlfriend who cheated on them. Now this is what really should have happened the first time around but for some reason it takes some time to get it through a person’s head. Now to be the third person in this situation is pretty complicated. But it is quite obvious that you are truly doing something wrong. If someone is in a relationship, then that’s that, period. There is no explanation to helping someone cheat on their boyfriend or girlfriend. Clearly you are going to feel horrible about yourself but sometimes it is really hard once you have started. In some situations the cheater doesn’t tell the third person involved that they are in a relationship, therefore that would make the other person completely clueless. But when you know that person has a boyfriend or girlfriend it is definitely obvious that it is the wrong thing to do. Even if you start to have feelings for this person, you know they are taken by someone else and that it is wrong to go after someone else’s thing. Now I am not saying that they are property because they aren’t, but they are devoted to someone. So either way they shouldn’t be with another person if they are taken. Cheating is a very hard subject to talk about. Sometimes people cheat on “accident”, but I honestly really don’t believe that for one second. You know what you are doing so clearly it wasn’t an accident. Now it is different if you are in a relationship and someone else tries with you. But to make it okay you would have to stop it immediately and tell that person that this can’t happen and then go straight to your boyfriend and girlfriend and tell them. Bottom line is cheating isn’t okay so just don’t do it.